The search for a therapeutic school for my daughter, Courtney, has been eye-opening, as it has shown me the complexities of special education law and the reality of the support—or lack thereof—available for students with significant needs. More than anything, it has highlighted the struggles faced by families like ours, who are desperately seeking the right resources and advocates for their children.

Have you ever heard of the term FAPE? It stands for Free and Appropriate Public Education. Every child has the right to FAPE. EVERY child. This right should extend beyond those who fit neatly into certain categories. If a school feels unable to provide this within their public institution, they are legally bound to find an alternative placement and ensure the financial support for that student to attend. Yet, somewhere in this process, parents often lose their voice, despite being an essential part of the team. The options for educational placement shrink to almost nothing, as these schools struggle with limited space and staff. To make matters worse, private therapeutic schools can be selective about who they accept, further complicating our search.

This reality leaves students like Courtney feeling lost in a system that’s meant to support them. How can she access the education she not only deserves but also has the right to receive? Many families in similar situations find themselves pulling their children out of the school system altogether, opting for homeschooling. This decision often forces one parent to give up their job to become not just a caregiver, but also a teacher. These parents, who need a break more than anyone, suddenly bear the weight of dual responsibilities—full-time caregiver and educator. For some, the financial burden of fighting for their child’s rights simply isn’t manageable, while others find themselves backed into a corner.

How is this acceptable? How do these injustices persist, often unnoticed by the general public?

Just the other day, a phone conversation almost led us to that very crossroads. As the words “maybe we should just home school her” slipped from my lips, I felt tears welling up. My frustration with the system, the district, and the entire situation reached an all-time high. It pains me deeply to realize that our district is failing Courtney, and I refuse to accept that this is where we must settle.

But here’s the truth—we are not caving in. Homeschooling is not the answer for our family. We will continue to fight for what she has the right to receive. We will not let the system keep Courtney from the education she deserves.

To all the parents out there navigating this challenging journey, know that you are not alone. This process has made me want to come together with others, so we can raise our voices, demand change, and ensure that every child receives the support and education they are entitled to. Let’s stand strong and advocate for our children, because they are worth the fight.